Letting go of the Groom

To “let go” is to fear less, and love more.

This particular line hit me. 

In carefully assessing myself on the process of letting go of someone, it has been very easy for me to say that after this, I will never allow anybody to hurt me as much as I have been hurt…

but why?

Does it mean I am blaming myself for allowing it to happen to finally make a recourse to have a heart as hard and as strong as steel?  If that's the case, then I haven't learned anything from it.

Tsk Tsk Tsk 

When taking risk in loving, no one has to be blame if it doesn't work that well.  There's a wider room for everybody where we could all fit in.  

A guy asked me while we were dancing, "Are you willing to take risks again?"

I answered…

"Yes, but not now.  Not tomorrow but soon I'll be.  I know it's very very soon.  The coping stage is a lot faster than I expect it to be.  But when I'm ready… I know I'll be happy.  Cause now I know how to take full responsibility and accountability of LOVE and of LOVING.  It has never been the same Sheggz in terms of this… I'm working on being more compassionate and responsible.  Loving, is not just feelings, it is far more than that.  It's not just the ring that I'll be wearing nor the elegant wedding that I wish to have…

it's working on the BEST US to produce LITTLE BEST US in the future.  While preparing myself to be complete and deserving, the other half is doing the same.  Isn't it nice and exciting?  I learned a lot from this heartache… really.  To put love in proper perspective and to put myself in the most proper place where I should really be.  That's the best thing I did this year.  It may be sad for now but it can stand as a mere fulfillment, too.  That love was never selfish… never… Now, I'm more careful when telling "I LOVE YOU"… it should come from the heart.  I won't tell it to anybody, even with friends and families, if I didn't mean it… cause when I do… you know it's real."

That's for me is the best lesson I got from Letting Go of the Groom…

And to my friends who know me, and even the groom, himself (hehehe) who are so concerned  with how I'm coping right now and bothered of my being silent and aloof. 

Don't worry… I'm happy…. Ako pah?!

MERRY CHRISTMAS….

I WISH YOU LOVE

and a HAPPY HEART!  

The Best Kind of Love

   I've been browsing the net for articles and poems about Letting Go.  There are actually many links that pointed me to what I need.  There are a few that touched my heart as well… 

This one's from Daryl-Marie. 

We may think that the guy we love is the only one that is worth it for us. But I must say that having a broken heart is just a part of life, one that must be endured and overcome. However, it is pointless to stay that way. "Love" does not mean holding on to feelings and being "devoted" to someone you couldn't have anyway; it is wanting what's best for the other person, even if it means that you don't get what you want. That's not to say that the pain shouldn't exist, or that it will fade away just like that, but true love desires the happiness of the one you love. I must admit that I am still recovering, but I am truly happy for Nate. All I want is for his best. Now, if I had realized this beforehand, I could have saved that piece of my heart for someone else–someone who will share a life with me in a union so beautiful that I will cry tears of joy at the thought of it, as opposed to the tears of pain that have lead me to where I sit right now.

Full article at this link.

Letting Go Takes Love

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it me ans I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means  the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, 
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
Remember:  The time to love is short.

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