Bonding Moment

April 8, 2007

 

 

The entire Holy Week, aside of course from the Holy Thursday, I spent the whole time at home.  I declined at some of my friends' invites of going to beach or spending the night-out at Tagaytay.

I enjoyed eating-sleeping-dancing alone-watching tv-eating-eating-bonding-bonding-sleeping.

This is what I missed.  Spending time with myself and with my family.  Last Saturday night, I was surprised to see my Mom at my Lola's house… 

Sheggz:  Oh, bakit kayo bumalik ulit.. di ba kakauwi ninyo lang?

Mader :  Dito ako matutulog. Kwentuhan tayo.

Sheggz:  Punta tayo ng Plaza… may baratillo.

Mader:  Sige.  Wala akong perang dala.

Sheggz:  Meron ako dito, pangtsinelas at popcorn.

Mader:  Hahahaha

Bonding moment with my Mom.  We dropped by the church and watched another event for Holy Week.  

Instead of buying sandals, we decided to buy 4 ice creams @ P5 each.  Good for my Mom, Lolo, Lola and myself, of course.  Me and my Mom ran fast till we get to our Lola's House… ice cream is about to melt… and the door is locked.  Hehehe  Everyone who saw us laughing while running tend to laugh at our craziness…

Ask about how I spent my Holy Week?  I spent it with the best people on earth… I used to call…

my Family. 

Slap!

 

Isn't it funny how day-by-day nothing changes,
but when you look back, everything is different. 

This is Renee's Easter message for me.  And after reading it… one familiar scene flashed into my mind…

Akala mo lang wala.. pero meron!  meron! meron!
- Carlo Aquino, sabay sampal ni Ate Vi sa isang pelikula

Pakkkk!!!

It was a true slap on Carlo's face.  A usual reaction of the guilty… a slap!!  Cause she/he knows it hurts.  We tend to ignore what is really happening…  we escape at reality bites.

Afraid of asking questions?  or Afraid of hearing answers?

Before it's too late… before everything looks different.

Try to move. 

Salubong

 

Pasalamat ako at ang lapit lang ng venue ng Paghuhugos ngayong Easter Sunday.  Isang kanto lang ang layo sa aming bahay sa Amadeo.  Kahit pupungas-pungas pa ako, talagang niyaya ko si Mader na manood.

Pano ba naman kasi, dati-rati, ilang kanto pa sa may dulo ng bayan ang pagdarausan neto.  2:30 pa lang ng madaling-araw, minemake-upan na ako ni Mader, dahil kabilang ako sa mga Anghel na kakanta ng Ora Pronobis.  Tapos ang kapatid ko naman ang siyang tutula ng mega-20 stanzas na tulang pang-Salubong.  Dakong alas-3 ng umaga, pipilitin kaming kumanta, eh halos hininga ko lang ang lumalabas at walang kasamang boses.  In the end, sangkaterbang suman at tinapay ang uwi naming mag-iina dahil natuwa sa kapatid ko.

Kanina lang… habang nanonood ako, naalala ko ung mga dating kumakanta dun… mga kaibigan ko… at ang kapatid ko… ang Lolo Sancho na nagturo ng tula kay Bro , si Ama na nagdidikta, at si Maam Fely na siya pa ring nagtuturo ng kanta. 

Natuwa ako na kahit ilang taon na ang lumipas, buhay pa rin ang tradisyong ito sa aming bayan.  Ang mga kababayan naming nasa ibang bansa, patuloy pa ring nag-aabang ng mga pictures at video ng Salubong.

Dati kasi, prestige ang mapabilang sa ganitong okasyon.. mejo magaganda pa anghel noon (naman!  kasali ako eh)… at sikat ang anghel na ihuhugos at ang batang tutula.

Natawa nga ako na .. memorize ko pa ang kanta at ang tula… at memorize ko pa kung saang part ako pumipiyok…  Paano kasi… ang kapatid ko, habang nasa CR.. uumpisahang tumula… kung nasa mood pa… isang buong misa ang nirerecite sa loob ng comfort room… pagflush neto… kahit kapitbahay namin alam na… "Tapos na ang misa" hehehehe.

At ngayon ko lang naintindihan na… ang saya pala ng pakiramdam na muling magkakasama si Mama Mary at si Jesus Christ after ng Pagkabuhay  neto… magkasama na silang babalik ng simbahan… kala ko dati, isang komiks lang ang napapanood ko…

Pinagtatawanan ko pa ang kapatid ko kapag nagigitla sa paglabas ng kalapati at halos muntik ng mahulog sa stage sa takot.

At magpahanggang-ngayon…. tagal ko ng tao… hindi ako nagigising ng alas-otso para maabutan ang Easter Egg Hunt sa Simbahan. 

Till next Mahal na Araw ulit.. aabangan ko na ang itlog! 

Crumpy

April 4, 2007

Dumating kami ng Pangasinan bago maghatinggabi. Hindi namin alam ang lugar at mas lalong wala kaming kaalam-alam sa mga patutunguhan.  Eto ang matagal nang plano na hindi pinlano… Hindi bale, marami naman kaming dalang pagkain… Nag-enjoy ako sa Crumpy at Pistacchio Nuts kaya ayun, nasira ang tiyan ko hehehehe.

Umakyat ako ng Manaoag baon ang sandamakmak na prayer requests ng pamilya at mga kaibigan.

Sa tindi ng sikat ng araw, wish ko lang na, sana hindi makasama ng pawis ko ang mga minemorize kong wishes nila.

Unang pagkakataon kong makasimba dito. Napakaluwag ng pakiramdam ko ng mga panahong iyon… Yung mga mabibigat kong dala-dalahin sa buhay, animo'y bubbles na biglang nagsiwalaan…

At masaya ako… kung hindi "maligaya" ang tugmang termino sa nararamdaman ko.

Para bang ipinagkatiwala ko ang kaligtasan at tiwala ko sa taong kasa-kasama ko. Andaming pagkakataong nawawala na kami sa lugar pero hindi ko alam kung bakit parang ang lahat sa akin ay "okay lang" at hindi ako nangangamba.

Isa kasing napakagandang hiling ang hiniling ko para sa sarili ko at para sa isang tao.

Sarap ng kain namin sa Matutina sa may Bonuan. Halos dalawang oras naming inubos ang pagkaing parang pang 4 na tao… At higit akong nag-enjoy sa masayang kwentuhan na animo'y walang inaalalang bukas. Hehehehe

Sarap kasi ng Bagoong… hehehehe

 

Kalabit Penge…

I was with a good friend when I visited Manaoag last Sunday. There, I got to see the miraculous Our Lady of Manaoag and the church.

We were through with the mass when we decided to drop by the pasalubong stalls beside the church.

Two lil boys came to us… selling prayer books…

Ate, bili ka na naman neto, Ate…

Kuya, bili ka na naman neto, Kuya..

I said, "Hindi po. Thank you na lang."

The same pangungulit went on a couple of times… I lost my temper when the lil boy said..

"Sige na Ate, kung ayaw mong bumili, pera na lang."

I looked at the lil boy. I was surprised at what he said.

I thought he was serious at selling prayerbooks to earn a living and not begging for money…

Not forcing anyone to give him something.

 

 

 

 

 

Lakad de-Susi

Kakaupo ko palang sa unahang upuan ng bus nang may mapansin akong isang matandang lalaki…

puti na ang kokonting buhok… at may hawak hawak na tungkod sa kanang kamay.

Pero higit na nakakuha ng atensiyon ko ang kanyang paglakad.

Meron ba kayong laruang manika na pag sinusian, ang liit liit ng hakbang…

left right left right left right…

as in mabilis pa ang langgam sa paglalakad.

Gusto ko ngang ihakbang ung lolo dahil ako ang naaawa sa kanya… mejo madumi pa naman ang daan dahil sa ulan.

Nawala na sa paningin ko ang lolo… tapos nung paalis na ang bus..

Nakita ko si lolo… mga 3 hakbang pa papunta sa pintuan ng Simbahan ng Quiapo.

Holy Wednesday pala ngayon.

Mejo nahiya ako sa sarili ko… hindi pala yung lolo ang dapat kong kaawaan.. kasi akong kumpleto at malakas ang pangangatawan na may kakayanang gawin ang lahat ng bagay, hindi ko man lang naisipang dumaan sa simbahan…

si Lolo pa kaya na nahihirapang maglakad… nagawang posibleng makarating sa Simbahan…

anong oras pa kaya nagstart maglakad iyon?

How To Meet Men And Get Things Started

My friend Tigidong sent me this e-mail.  Though, it's quite long, I tend to become interested in reading the entire article… Hope you learn something from it. 

There's something PAINFULLY OBVIOUS going on here you probably haven't considered.
And it's something important I want you to remember that most women never seem to get about
men-

Men are AFRAID of REJECTION.

Stop for a second and think about it…

Men have a million different reasons of their own for NOT talking to a woman and not asking her… most of which have NOTHING to do with him not being interested and not wanting to be with her.

Let me share with you a couple of things you might not have thought about before that will expand your AWARENESS of what's going on with men.

Did you know that a man will often be even MORE AFRAID of rejection when it comes to asking
out a woman he already knows?

Seriously.

To most women, it seems like the opposite would be true… but it's not.
A man feels like he has a whole lot more to lose by "hitting on" a woman who is inside
his social circle than he does with a woman who's a perfect stranger.

Of course, you might never get the idea from a man that he wouldn't be totally comfortable or confident about approaching a woman from the way he acts, or the fact that he can talk to you
about work or any other less personal topic…

But the reality is that when it comes to approaching women and asking them out, most men:

A) Don't know what to do or say to find out if a woman is interested
B) Don't know HOW to ask a woman out
C) Feel so nervous at the thought of approaching a strange new woman that they have to literally
run away from the situation
D) Worry intensely what might happen if they "cross the line" from friendly conversation to what
might be considered a "sexual advance"

In other words… for a man, showing a woman that he's interested and asking her out can be very very RISKY.

If a man in your office was interested in you… and he went up to you and decided to ask you out, inside his mind here's the 3 most likely outcomes:

1. You'd REJECT him as you felt "creeped out" by him making a sexual advance… and you'd
spread the word that he was a weirdo and he'd become an outcast among your office peers

2. You'd both reject him, and you'd file a sexual harassment complaint

3. You'd say yes and you'd perhaps go out on a date that might or might not go well

So let me ask you…

How do these potential outcomes compare when you look at all 3 of them?

Well, 2 of these outcomes are what you might think of as very harmful or destructive for a man.

And just 1 of the outcomes has a some small potential to bring more fun and enjoyment into
his life.

Here's the point…

In lots of situations, men simply won't take the risk of approaching a woman in a personal or "sexual" way because the risk isn't worth the potential reward.

Men don't think about all this consciously of course. They make these decisions in a snap second based on the way that they FEEL in the moment around a woman.

A man's behavior with a woman he isn't close or intimate with yet is decided and all takes place in an INSTANT where a man either "feels it" for a woman and decides that it's "safe" for him
to move forward… or not.

And here's something else fascinating you need to know…

After years and years spent talking to both men and women about love, relationships, dating and attraction… there's something I've found to be universally true-

Deep down most men see WOMEN as the ones who hold all the "control" and "power" when it
comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

For most men, it's their absolute everyday reality that WOMEN are the ones who decide what
happens when dating, who LEAD the situation forward when and how they want, and are the
one's who ultimately say Yes or No.

Of course, if you're like most women, then you see things differently…

Deep down you see a MAN as the one who holds all the control and power in the dating world.

And for you it's the MAN who is the one who decides if there's going to be a connection,
and whether or not things are going to move forward… and that something real, like a great
relationship, will only happen if he allows it to happen and subtly LEADS and decides to let
the situation go this way.

But wait a minute.

How could men and women both be experiencing the same thing about the other?

By now I think you're starting to see where this is going.

The good news is that just by becoming AWARE of the fact that men can and do feel EXACTLY
the way you often do when it comes to meeting, dating, and getting things started is a HUGE
EYE-OPENER that will change your entire perspective and approach forever for the better.

If you let it.

Why He Isn't Asking You Out

So we've already covered the fact that approaching a woman can be very RISKY and
dangerous for a man.

In fact, the way we humans developed, for males it was literally a matter of life or
death.

If a woman rejected him, he might be not only "outted" from his group or community
and never get to have children… but other males would literally hurt or kill him as
a result.

There's some intense "wiring" built into this process of finding and meeting a woman for a man.

Anyways, enough of the deep stuff for now.

Let me fill in some other gaps here for you about men and getting things started…

Did you know that TONS of great women walk around constantly believing that there are
NO GOOD MEN OUT THERE?

While TONS of good men live their lives single, alone, and frustrated that they can't meet a great woman who is sweet, attractive, and loving of them for who they really are?

This fact about men and women never ceases to amaze me.

No matter where I go, over and over again I see men who are scared stiff of approaching
women and simply starting conversations.

So much so that the men who are actually CONFIDENT and genuinely comfortable and
AUTHENTIC in the way they can interact with and approach and meet women, makes them instantly
popular and "powerful" among other men.

It's incredible to watch how this works and plays out among men.

Anyways…

One of the most powerful things that goes on for men that keeps them from connecting with
great women is this-

The MORE INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE a woman is to a man… the more SCARED and NERVOUS the man
becomes around her.

Funny how that works.

I know TONS of great guys who are confident, fun, smart and successful… and can walk into a
room full of people and work all kinds of magic from helping others, engaging in incredible and
riveting conversations, to leading and supporting and listening all at the same time.

But even these men simply don't feel like they'll ever be able to meet and attract
a great woman.

And that when push comes to shove, they just don't have that special something, that unique
charm, or the right stuff that would make a woman want to go out with them.

Let alone know what to actually SAY to a woman to have her become interested in him.

For most men, the idea of how to get a woman's personal and "sexual interest" completely and
utterly ELUDES THEM.

But why is this?

Well, for starters, some men have a sense of what I'll call SHAME about being a sexual
person, and about engaging with a woman in a sexual way when not expressly invited to do so.

But that's a whole other story…

Most men claim that they can't or don't meet, talk to, or ask out women that they
are interested in because, as they say, "So many women are 'bitchy' or 'uptight'."

Of course, this is just a defense to keep them from feeling worse about themselves or
risk REJECTION.

Lots of men, and I mean LOTS, also complain about how there aren't any good women out there
that would be interested in them for who they REALLY ARE… unless they were richer, more
powerful, more talented, better looking, etc.

Not true, as you know.

The SECRET and REAL REASON that these men can't and don't "make the move" even when the
right woman is right there in front of them is because most men simply don't know how to
GET THE CONVERSATION STARTED with a woman and actually CONNECT with her on a personal and
emotional level.

This is what one of my good friends calls a man's "Secret Excuse".

Hmmm. And wouldn't you know it… this kind of thing seems to be a lot like what women are
experiencing when it comes to men. (hint, hint)

How many women have you heard say,

"There aren't any good guys out there."

"Men don't like 'real' women like me. They want some other fake plastic Barbie doll."

Or my recent favorite…

"Men are all so screwed up. I'm better off and happier not even thinking about dating."

As if these women can "turn off" the need and desire for love and connection in their
life.

If you're paying close attention here, then some light bulbs are starting to go off inside
your head.

I find it amazing how the truth becomes so clear for us when we can see our own challenges
and struggles through the lives of others.

So, what do you think you have in common with a man who is holding on to his "Secret
Excuse" for why he can't meet a great woman?

I'll give you a few moments to think about it.

..

..

If you spent the time for yourself here, then you had some strong and clear REALIZATIONS
by asking yourself this question.

Here's 2 things that I'd strongly recommend you do right now:

1) Write your thoughts down

I can't tell you how valuable it is to capture those moments of clarity and insight
in your life and put them somewhere you can keep them in your conscious mind and keep
learning and growing from them.

2) Keep the process of asking the right questions and getting back clear and powerful
answers that guide you…

One of the VERY BEST ways of doing this and keeping your growth and learning process
going is to immerse yourself in the right situations and the right information that will
bring about those amazing INSIGHTS and REALIZATIONS for you.

If you'd like to read something that can quickly create these situations for you where
you keep learning, grow wiser, and see yourself and men in a much clearer light… then I
suggest you get yourself a copy of my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him".

In it I cover not just what you need to know about men, their "dating psychology",
and the deeper reasons the way they act and respond the way they do…

But I also go into great depth about the common emotional things that YOU are going
through, and your own secret excuses for not being the ATTRACTIVE and DESIRABLE WOMAN that
a man can't help but want to get to know and be with.

There's a great idea I love thinking about…

A problem can't be solved by the mind that created it.

If you don't know WHY things are going the way you want with a man, but you can clearly
read the signs and identify all the PROBLEMS and things that are going wrong… then odds
are it's going to be VERY HARD to figure out how to change your situation by using the same
thinking and mindset that created your problems in the first place.

If you don't know how to make a "shift", or you don't find NEW ANSWERS and a new way
of seeing things that will show you what you need to do next… then you're going to keep
pushing the right man away.

Or keep him from wanting to meet you and get to know you in the first place.

It's time you invited growth and change into your life, and stopped trying to solve
your frustrations and problems with men with the very mindset that helped create them.

You can download my eBook right now and be reading it in just a few minutes if you
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